I can give you all the contentment and happiness you like. It’s a matter of perspective.
What is perspective?
- A way of regarding situations, facts etc. and judging their relative importance
- The proper or accurate point of view or the ability to see it objectively
Based on the definitions, can you see how your thought process around a situation determines how you feel about it?
It is nearly impossible to escape circumstances in our lives. Life is circumstance. We live amongst it, we judge it, berate it, celebrate it and try to avoid it, change it or even obtain more of it. The only thing we can change is the perspective we have about it. This is where true freedom lies. What if you could adjust and be accepting of anything and everything that happens around and to you so that only good ever surrounds you?
An imbalanced perspective hinders our capacity to be fulfilled. Viktor Frankl, Psychiatrist and author of Man’s Search for Meaning, writes about his experience in a Nazi concentration camp while his loved one’s perished around him. He argues that we cannot avoid suffering, but we can choose how to cope with it. “When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves”. While he watched others around him literally give up and die, he maintained, “The one thing you can’t take away from me is the way I choose to respond to what you do to me. The last of one’s freedoms is to choose one’s attitude in any given circumstance”.
What stories do you tell yourself to make your current situation or circumstance more believable or less painful? Our perspective stems from our beliefs and our beliefs have been formed out of our experiences so we hold them very dear to us. When we get into a debate or heated discussion with someone and we can’t see others point of view, you can bet that our belief systems are being challenged.
What if you could suspend everything you believe in just for 5 minutes? Try it. Nothing can be lost in those few short minutes. What on earth could challenge or irritate you, or what could you get angry about if you held no strong beliefs toward anything? Take three long, slow deep breaths and as you exhale, just let everything go… and feel the stillness inside you.
How do you choose to perceive your circumstances now?
When in your life did you change your perspective about a situation, and what happened? What could you change your perspective on?